“I was introduced to The Work about 2 years ago. It has absolutely changed my life. I have been acting since I was 10 years old and have dreamt about being a successful actor since then. I was always going on auditions, reading books, attending rehearsals, or watching movies and plays. I concerned my entire life with making it as a professional actor and tried not to concern myself with much else. When I attended my freshman year of college I came face to face with all the buried difficulties, trauma, and sadness that I had pushed aside through my steadfast attitude throughout life. In the first semester of my freshman year my world seemed to collapse and I entered a deep depression. I am incredibly grateful to Ashley Gates Jansen for introducing The Work into my life and to the universe/karma/reality/God for allowing a spark to ignite with it. Since I began practicing The Work, not only did my life turn around, but I also began an incredible spiritual search. I began to read Katie’s books along with Adyashanti, Eckhart Tolle, Rupert Spira, Gangaji, Ramana Maharshi, Nisargadatta Maharaj, and others. I started to meditate in a more traditional style as well as continue to meditate through The Work. I have taken this semester off from college, and since May I have been traveling around and staying at different monasteries and spiritual centers. I have been doing many silent meditation retreats these past 6 months, filling my curiosity with traditions that have spread all over the globe over countless past centuries. This search has currently brought me to Pokhara, Nepal where I am living with a Tibetan Buddhist family and volunteering at an orphanage. I will be here until Christmas and then returning to school to continue with my arts’ education.
Over all of my exploration and “spiritual window shopping” I have found that nothing I’ve found is as applicable, useful, and transformative as The Work. In fact, all of the searching and learning has not only helped with gaining an intellectual and feeling understanding of life and the principles that Hinduism and Buddhism were founded upon, but has also allowed The Work to slowly open and reveal ever deepening layers of those incredible 4 questions. My spiritual life seems to be budding like a flower and The Work synchronizes its opening with me. I continue to be amazed and grateful every time I complete a worksheet and my heart expands even more. I feel forever blessed to have this inquiry in my life and hope to spread it to every person who enters my awareness who is seeking truth, freedom, and happiness. I full heartedly believe that in order to help others one must first help themselves, and that truth has confirmed itself in my life as people only seem to come to me for help when I am feeling emotionally, physically, and spiritually healthy. Then I get the wonderful opportunity to share The Work and help open up the universal heart. I hope The School for The Work will allow me to deepen my understanding and in turn I will be able to give back more to my friends and family who populate this world and who allow me to live in this beautiful place.” – WC
Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
In A Mind at Home with Itself, Byron Katie illuminates one of the most profound ancient Buddhist texts, The Diamond Sutra (newly translated in these pages by distinguished scholar Stephen Mitchell) to reveal the nature of the mind and to liberate us from painful thoughts, using her revolutionary system of self-inquiry called “The Work.” Byron Katie doesn’t merely describe the awakened mind; she empowers us to see it and feel it, in action. At once startlingly fresh and powerfully enlightening, A Mind at Home with Itself offers us a transformative new perspective on life and death and is certain to become a classic.
“I think Byron Katie is just a real thing. I love her to death. She’s pure and her intent is only to serve and she brings people back to reality so quickly. Teaches them not to believe their limiting thoughts and to question them and find the real truth.” —Tony Robbins
“Katie is at home with her true self. There is both poetry and prose in her words as she guides and points us toward the peace that she is, and knows we are.” —Jane Lynch
“Byron Katie has rocked my world and shaken loose my mind more thoroughly than any other spiritual teacher I’ve ever encountered. I would recommend A Mind At Home With Itself to anyone like me–to anyone who has ever felt like her own mind was a very dangerous neighborhood.” —Elizabeth Gilbert
STEPHEN MITCHELL’S many books include the bestselling Tao Te Ching, The Selected Poetry of Rainer Maria Rilke, Gilgamesh, The Gospel According to Jesus, The Book of Job, The Second Book of the Tao, The Iliad, and The Odyssey. You can read extensive excerpts from all his books on his website, stephenmitchellbooks.com.
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Join Byron Katie to experience the freedom of undoing whatever makes you unhappy, allowing your mind to return to its true, awakened, peaceful, creative nature. With her humor and lovingly incisive clarity, Katie will show you how to identify and question the stressful thoughts that cause all the suffering and violence in the world. Participants will have the opportunity to ask questions and to do The Work with Katie. Who would you be without your story?
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Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself
“I am not exaggerating when I say that the School for The Work was one of the best experiences of my life. I had no idea that something so wonderful existed in the world, and now that I have experienced it, I know that I have to be more connected to The Work and its presence in the world. At the School I felt like I was home for the first time in a long time. I am a psychotherapist, and I am so glad to be a part of this. The Work has been alive in me for years, but now I know that it is not just a small piece of my life but must somehow take a much larger focus. I look forward to finding out where that trust will take me.” -RM
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In A Mind at Home with Itself, Byron Katie illuminates one of the most profound ancient Buddhist texts, The Diamond Sutra (newly translated in these pages by distinguished scholar Stephen Mitchell) to reveal the nature of the mind and to liberate us from painful thoughts, using her revolutionary system of self-inquiry called “The Work.” Katie doesn’t merely describe the awakened mind; she empowers us to see it and feel it, in action. At once startlingly fresh and powerfully enlightening, this title offers us a transformative new perspective on life and death and is certain to become a classic.
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A man does The Work onstage with Byron Katie during her 2017 Zurich event. In English with German translation. The first statement on his Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet is “I am saddened by my father because he beat and abused me.” BK: In any situation, I really want to know what is real, and what is not, so I question the thoughts that cause my suffering. It’s my job to wake myself up to reality. The fantasy is not that pleasant, so just begin now. This is the time and the place. And what I love about sitting in silence, in The Work, is that it’s all there. Be aware that you are dreaming your past. Notice the difference between reality and imagination. Through doing The Work with Katie, the man discovers some peace in a situation that was pure horror.
“What I love about the past is that it’s over.” —Byron Katie
“Mind is the creator of everything, without exception.” —Byron Katie
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Step into an evening of radical self-inquiry with Byron Katie, as she launches her new book, A Mind at Home with Itself. The book weaves the brilliant clarity of the Diamond Sutra with the power of The Work, her method of self-inquiry. Katie will engage participants, using The Work, which is so sharp that it can cut through the most obstinate stressful thought and lead you to the freedom that is your birthright.
When the mind understands its true nature, it becomes an unceasing flow of delight. —Byron Katie, from A Mind at Home with Itself
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The clearer your mind gets, the more it projects a friendly universe, until one day it occurs to you that you haven’t had a problem for a very long time.
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Byron Katie has one job: to teach people how to end their own suffering. As she guides people through her simple yet powerful process of inquiry, called The Work, they find again and again that their stressful beliefs—about the world, other people, or themselves—radically shift. This shift allows the mind to return to its awakened, peaceful, creative nature. Join Katie in a workshop designed to take you on a journey of self-discovery. With her humor and lovingly incisive clarity, Katie will show you how to identify and question the stressful thoughts that cause all the suffering and violence in the world. Anyone with an open mind can do The Work. Participants will have the opportunity to ask questions and to do The Work with Katie.
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A husband and wife do The Work with Byron Katie during her 2017 Zurich event. (In English with German translation.) Katie asks the husband to look his wife in the eyes and read from the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet he has written about her.
BK: I invite everyone to this exercise. Allow yourself to listen to your partner and notice: is what they are saying true? Are they right? And if they are, you’re going to feel the burn if your ego is defending you. When you feel that burn from thinking “It’s not fair; he always judges me,” just drop into silence and notice, considering for yourself whether it’s true or not. If he’s right, allow a response of “Thank you” to be enough.
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Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself
Recent Podcast, Elise is Ignoring Me—The Work of Byron Katie
When a thought hurts, that’s the signal that it isn’t true.
Elise is Ignoring Me—The Work of Byron Katie
Byron Katie does The Work with a French man who believes that his girlfriend is ignoring him. His concept is “I’m angry with Elise because she’s ignoring me.” He explains that she’s passionately interested in another man.
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Man: The situation is: we are in a dance hall in the countryside and a man comes along.
BK: What is she doing in that moment when you say she’s ignoring you?
Man: I’m sitting down. Two people come in and start talking to the man about dancing. Her eyes light up and she speaks passionately to that man. It’s as though there are no other people on earth.
BK: Close your eyes and see the scene. She’s ignoring you—Is it true?
BK: Look again. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? She is looking only at him. She is looking starry eyed. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
BK: What did you just understand?
Man: I felt included in the room with them.
BK: Does that feel right? In other words, what you just experienced; was it authentic?
BK: Close your eyes. In that situation in that moment in time, notice what it feels like and notice how you react when you think the thought she’s ignoring me?
Man: I feel abandoned, nervous, and angry.
BK: You see images of past and future before you can feel annoyed or angry. And I love that you all understand how the mind works; the cause of emotion. You see images of the future and past and you’re asleep to that. As you witness that dream it’s like watching a movie and that’s what brings anger. No matter how quickly your temper rises, past-future has to be in place. So close your eyes. You’re seeing her with her eyes all lit up talking to him. You think the thought “She’s ignoring me.” What images of past and future do you see in your mind’s eye while you’re sitting there? Do you see images of how she used to look at you that way? And then you see pictures in your mind’s eye of a future when she’ll never look at you that way again. Also, you look at him, and then you have an image of you in your mind’s eye. And your mind is comparing him with you. So now you’re sure she’ll never look at you that way again. She’ll always be thinking of him. This is what happened in that moment that you were witnessing her.
Man: Laughs [in recognition of his experience that Katie just described].
BK: So you witness this past and future; you don’t know it’s going on in the moment. If you continue this practice, as you sit in that movie, you can be awake to the cause of the anger and confusion you’re experiencing in the moment.
Now in your mind’s eye, look at her, look at them, and take that story off of then. Get intimate; watch. Get connected. Who would you be, without putting that onto those two people? Without comparing.
Man: I would be happy for her; that she’s able to talk about her passion.
BK: What we want is for everyone to be happy. Why does it have to be you that makes her happy? But no, you want only you to give her that. That is limited love; conditional love.
Man: I’m at peace. It doesn’t bother me. I can accept it.
Man: I’m ignoring her.
I’m ignoring her passion; her feelings.
I left without her.
BK: When I turn around “I’m ignoring her,” I witness in my mind’s eye, did I ignore her or punish her in any way in the situation? And later, did I hold a resentment; continue not to call, not to talk? Did I continue to punish her or ignore her in any way? If I have, and if it feels right, I contact her, admit it, and make it right where I can. I created it; I need to end my part. It’s like the breadcrumbs; you go back and pick them up, or that will be your past. Take care of it in the present time. It’s a practice.
Man: I’m ignoring myself.
I love her and this is not proof of my love.
I hurt myself all on my own.
BK: Yes, by comparing you with him in your mind’s eye.
With your eyes closed, look at him and look at you. The way you experienced that situation. Look at yourself in your mind’s eye, is that you? No one has ever seen themselves. Not one human being. You see what you imagine yourself to be. When you look at how you saw yourself that night, it was not your best image. You always lose when you compare. You’re always more or less. You believe that’s you so you’re identified as that image which is not you. You’re in the dream and it will affect your next relationships.
I love that you notice any time you feel upset, that you’re in the past and future. You’re not in reality. In reality there’s no anger, no jealousy, no more, no less. Just sanity.
When you compare, you lose. —Byron Katie
Katie’s new book, A Mind At Home With Itself.
A French woman does The Work on a situation with her sister that occurred thirty years ago. The woman had just opened her first bank account and was already in the red. Sitting at the dinner table with their parents, her little sister said, “You’re irresponsible.”
The belief she finds by revisiting that moment is “My sister betrayed me.”
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BK: She betrayed you. Close your eyes and witness. Notice how you physically react when you think the thought “She betrayed me.” Describe it as you witness.
Woman: It’s as if I’d been shot with an arrow in my heart.
BK: Did you give her “the look”? We’re looking for those physical tendencies. I want you to get still enough to observe. Does your body tighten? Your shoulders? Your neck?
Woman: I can feel it in my eyes. I’m judging her. I feel myself above her.
BK: Do you feel the pain? Continue to look with your eyes closed. Look at your sister in that moment without the story “She betrayed me.” What do you see?
Woman: Just a little girl with an opinion.
BK: Do you see her innocence?
Woman: She just wants to be part of the family and take part in the conversation.
BK: Look at her again with the thought. Notice the radical difference. Who caused all that suffering, your sister or you?
Together they find turnarounds to her original statement:
Woman: I betrayed myself.
BK: You put your untested thoughts over reality.
Woman: My sister did not betray me.
BK: Could be as true or truer. She just told the truth.
Woman: I betrayed my sister.
BK: In that situation, what does that mean to you? Examples?
Woman: I crystallized the idea that I couldn’t count on her.
BK: She makes a statement that was a simple truth. You betrayed her by what you believed onto her. Not what she did, but what you believed onto her. Not being good with money is a good thing to know about yourself. People who betray you support you to come out of denial. Do you see how this is the end of war? Defense is the first act of war and your reaction to your sister was defense. It’s how the ego stays identified as that self. We have an identification that we want to live up to, like “I’m the responsible one.” When someone threatens the ego’s identity, there’s war. That’s how war is created in our world. If we can’t end the war in our own minds and lives, how can we expect our politicians to? We can’t. When we believe our thoughts, we create not only suffering in our lives but in the world and within our own families.
Defense is the first act of war. —Byron Katie
Eileen Fisher and Byron Katie dive in and explore topics that include anxiety, creative mind, how to serve, conscious consumerism, and a fearless state of mind.
This conversation was filmed live at the Eileen Fisher Embodiment Lounge at the Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco in February 2017.
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