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By the way, Billy - - - what's the "POP" DVD??

POP stands for "Presentation Outreach Program." Byron Katie International is currently working on a DVD that will be sent out to participants of The School for The Work to go along with the cd and script that we were given at the end of the Oct. School. It is a great way to present The Work to people in free public events. I did POP at my church this past Sunday (Feb. 18th) using the cd and the script (that I did not have to read word for word but used as a guide) and it went very well. If you or anyone else has attended a past School you are eligible to get a copy of POP as a tool to help with your presentations.

Billy

The honesty and straighforwardness of this piece really resonated for me. I have been wondering lately about how to be honest with myself and the world. Through this mans work I could see where I delude myself and what I can do to work on it. Thanks.

I agree, great video. It's available in full on the CD "Love Stories for Fathers & Sons" from www.thework.com - I recommend it. My mother died when I was 9 years old, and I can relate to this dialogue very deeply.

By the way, Billy - - - what's the "POP" DVD??

It feels so good transcribing these sessions - it's like really getting deeply into it - I recommend it as a way to to get more out of the videos!

With love, Jon

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Transcript of:

"My Father Isn't Here for Me"

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P: I'm angry at James Arnold Doyle, who's my father - he passed when I was 14 months old. I'm angry at him for not being there for me.

BK: OK, so "He's not here for you", is that true?

P: Yes

BK: "He's not here for you", can you absolutely know that that's true, that he's not here for you?

P: Can I absolutely know that's true? I feel him here for me sometimes, so I guess I can't absolutely know that it's true.

BK: So, how do you react when you think that thought "He's not here for me?"

P: I react with anger towards people I love.

BK: Yeah, and a lot of sadness I can see, yeah.

P: I can feel it in my whole body.

BK; In your whole body - so sweetheart who would you be without the thought, and I invite you to close your eyes, now picture yourself as a little boy growing up and all the way through school and with your Mom, picture your life all the way through - same life - only without the thought "My Dad's not here for me"

BK: Who would you be living your life without that thought?

BK: The same life. Watch you living your life without that thought. Who would you be without that thought?

P: A different person.

BK: A different person?

P: Happy, excited about living life. I'd be more open.

BK: So, "My father's not here for me", turn that around. Can you find an opposite?

P: "My father is here for me"

BK: "My father's not here for me", turned around, "My father is here for me"

BK: Give me an example of where that's true, that your father is here for you?

P: In spirit - just I feel him sometimes, wishing me well.

BK: Have you seen pictures of him?

P: [nodding]

BK: So when we are talking about him, do you imagine him and see him - his face?

P: Only in pictures.

BK: All in pictures, well that's the only way any of us see anyone.

BK: We see them in pictures, you know, the way we believe them to be, not how they really are. But, as you talk about him you can see him through the pictures that you've been shown.

BK: Yes, so give me another example of how he is here for you?

P: Um, I know he is half of my DNA. [smiling!]

BK: Very good! Boy, is that close!

P: [laughing] Real close

BK: [clasping hands] That's tight - that's marvelous - you're his genetics - it's very powerful.

BK: Can you find another turnaround from "My father's not here for me", can you find another turnaround?

P: I'm not here for my son.

BK: Yeah, so now give me an example of where in your life, of where you are not there for your son.

P: I don't help him with his homework like I should.

BK: That's one - and, and when you see how precious it would be to have a father you may look at that quite differently after this - where's another example of where you are not there for your son?

P: I don't allow him to feel his feelings.

BK: Oh sweetheart, oh my, so allow you to feel yours right now. And that's how we give our children permission to experience what they are feeling.

BK: You do very well at it, your feelings are very visible to me and thank you for that.

BK: Yeah, so you know, where's another example? You know, as soon as we find these examples we know, we can see clearly what to change, but until we question our minds and turn it around sometimes these things are ABSOLUTELY lost to us - it's like we see it but we don't really realize it, so this brings it out into the open.

BK: An example, another example of where you are not there for your son?

P: I get angry with him quickly.

BK: Yeah, so you are not there for him through clear communication, you're using anger to communicate.

P: And control.

BK: And control. [nodding] Yeah.

BK: So can you find another turnaround - "My father wasn't there for.... my father isn't here for me", can you find another turnaround?

P: I'm not there for my mother.

BK: OK, so let's get closer to home. I've found one, would you like me to speak it? OK?

P: Please

BK: "I'm not there for ... my father isn't here for me", turned around, "I am not here for...." [pointing at him]

P: [laughing] I tried to get away from that one.

[Audience laughing with him]

BK: [Nodding] Yeah, so an example of where you are not there for yourself?

P: In the past I used drugs to run from myself.

BK: Yeah, that's one - I love that you saw that that didn't work very well.

P: And I'm no longer using drugs.

BK: Yeah, can you find another example of where you are not here for you?

P: Blaming others, not taking responsibility.

BK: Very good - it's like if I think that you are my problem I am insane.

BK: This work, these four questions and turnaround - this work is about 100% responsibility.

Great video! This would be very good for the "POP" DVD that we keep hearing about. It shows very clearly the four questions and the turnarounds in perfect sequence. Although, I am sure that whatever clip is used for the DVD will be great. They are all great.