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i feel the same way as that guy, some women dont know what they want...

dont ever says guys are not commited, some are and some are not.

the same goes for women

Here's the transcript for this one - arriving at the perfect time :-)

With love, Jon

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Video: Inquiry - "I Don't Ever Want to be Rejected Again"

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E: I am angry at Michelle because she left me for another man.

E: She did not wait one week before we broke off to start her new relationship.

E: I want Michelle to apologize to me, I want her to come back to me, I want her to break up with him.

E: Michelle shouldn't have fallen out of love with me, she should have given the relationship another chance, she should not hold so many resentments against me.

E: I need Michelle to fall in love with me again and never date any other man.

E: Michelle is selfish, immature, addicted to the drama, does not know how to stay committed to a monogamous relationship.

E: I don't ever want to feel betrayed by her again, I don't ever want to be rejected by a woman again.

BK: So sweetheart, we can work the whole thing, but just off the top of my head, "You don't ever want to be rejected by a woman again, is that true?"

BK: [Smiling] You are in the wrong world if that's true - you are going to SUFFER :-)

E: No, I'm willing to take my chances, that's how it is.

BK: Yeah, so how do you react, what happens - [to audience] third question - how do you react when you think the thought "I don't want to be rejected by a woman again?" and you run into Michelle or she calls or you meet another woman that's attractive?

E: Well, I become the woman-pleaser, you know, I try to do whatever it looks like it would take to make her happy.

BK: Yeah, and then you, then she won't reject you

E: Yeah, that's what I think.

BK: Yeah, that's the manipulation.

E: (off-screen) Yes, and it doesn't work.

BK: Yes

E: And when it doesn't work I feel like "Ok, I did it wrong, I just don't know how to do this, I don't know how to be in a relationship, err, I'm ugly" and it feels tight in my chest.

BK: Ok, fourth question, so close your eyes - now, watch you with Michelle and watch you and don't change anything about your life, just look at your life, meeting other women and in your profession and at the market and Michelle and everyone - so who would you be without the thought "I don't want to be rejected by a woman again"?

E: I'd be a STUD (laugh)

BK: Oh yeah!

E: I'd be, I'd be just you know with my eyes open and enjoying life more (grinning!).

BK: So

E: (off-screen) And it feels better, inside

BK: Yeah, so "I don't ever want to be rejected by a woman again" - turn it around.

E: I don't ever want to be rejected by me again - yeah, that's what I do, I reject me - and I notice that it happens like "Ok, I'm with me, I'm with me" and then BOOM, gone, reject me, and "with me, with me" and BOOM, reject me, just happens like (clicks his fingers).

BK: So give me an example of one of the biggies that you reject you for - or a rejection thought - I heard several of them when you were answering the third question "How do I react when I think that thought?".

E: Like, so how do I reject myself? Well, I think when I think I need a partner in my life to be happy, that's a big one yeah.

BK: Oh my goodness.

E: Or when I think I am ugly, I mean I am rejecting myself for what I look like and what I am.

BK: Yeah.

E: When I think that I need their touches or their kisses.

BK: Yes, the dream world

E: (Off-screen) The dream world, yeah.

BK: The world of "what's not".

What a stud!

What can I say more then that I love to sit and hear how you do people seeing?? A big hug to you who has found the same as I... Nina in sweden sends you a big hug..