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Posted by Byron Katie on March 1, 2007 12:51 PM
Thanks so much for posting all these transcripts; they are such a wonderful aid to others who may not be able to hear the audio.
I was actually attending the Work's one-day seminar where this session took place, and it was so wonderful to see this man change his perceptions so quickly and beautifully. I remember feeling such joy that day watching Katie live help person after person. Thank you for everything, Katie. You are changing my life for the better every day.
Love you all,
March 4, 2007 11:42 PM
March 4, 2007 23:42
Here's the transcript for this one - some problems hearing it towards the end, but hope this is enough.
I don't know how useful this is for people that can't hear the videos to have alongside it, but if there's anything I can do to make them clearer or easier, just let me know.
With love, Jon
Video: Inquiry - "He shouldn't have died"
BK: How do you react when you believe the thought "He shouldn't have left, he shouldn't have been killed in the war" and he did leave and he was killed in the war?
BK: What happens when you believe that thought that would argue with reality, that would argue with what is?
P: How do I react?
BK: (off-screen) What happens?
P: Well, really deep despair....
BK: (off-screen) and a longing and a missing
P: And a longing, for sure yeah, and....
BK: (off-screen) And the things you could have said to him and didn't say to him
P: Yeah, and we never, we never told each we loved him, we loved each other - ever. And, so I never got to say that and I never got to say, erm, all the things I wanted to say to him when I grew up.
BK: So that's what happen when you think the thought and believe the thought he shouldn't have done, he shouldn't have left, he shouldn't have been killed in the war.
P: (off-screen) Yeah
BK: That's what happens - that's how the mind keeps that in place. It's how it continues to believe it.
BK: And that's what creates the world and that's fine except your world sounds miserable in the moment you are believing that thought as a little guy growing up with no father.
P: Or right now.
BK: Or right now - so, you know, summed up regret, heartache...
P: I blame myself for wanting him dead. I had the thought when I was a kid "My God I wanted to kill him and now he's dead, I must have killed him."
BK: Yeah - very painful. So who would you be without this thought that would argue with reality, would argue with what is? (then off-screen) "My father should not have left, he should not have been killed in the war." Who would you be without that thought?
P: Just me, presence.
BK: Yeah - so close your eyes - now watch your life, watch your life after your father died - exactly the way you have lived it, only without the thought, drop your story, without the thought "He shouldn't have left, he shouldn't have died" - look at your life, look at the difference that belief makes.
P: (eyes closed) Hmm.
BK: And the difference in your life without that belief.
[A long pause while he sits with it]
P: There's no blame there anymore.
BK: (off-screen) No.
P: (facing BK, away from camera) I blame myself, I blame others and that's gone.
BK: Yeah - it's the same life, no tricks, just you not believing that thought - the difference in a lifetime.
BK: With the thought - stress, a busy mind, a lost mind, confused mind - without the thought...
P: Peaceful - regardless.
BK: (off-screen) So, sweetheart, "My father should not have left, he should not have been killed in the war" - turn it around.
P: My father definitely should have gotten killed in the war.
BK: Yes, welcome to reality, that is the way of it, that's the way of it and I've come to see that there's no mistake in the universe and absolutely it's brilliant, it's brilliant that everything should recycle the way that it does and be born on time and die on time and, and speak on time and hold paper on time and wear the right shoes and... brilliant - and even the wrong shoes are the right shoes.
BK: And when we argue with it we are blind to it. So he should have left and he should have been killed in the war, now give me an example of why you're better off, the world is better off, your father is better off, why is it better off that that is the way of it?
BK: (off-screen) What advantages were there in it for all of that?
P: Well, ultimately, I had to learn to really sort of stand on my own two feet.
P: (off-screen) Yeah, yeah.
BK: Wow, so no-one there to make sure you did it but you.
BK: Well, if a father really loved you, what would he do?
P: (off-screen) He would die.
BK: That's independence, yeah, if God is good what would happen(?)
P: I became a world-class race-car driver, he never would have let me do that.
BK: Yeah, yeah.
P: That was the total and joyful career (?)
BK: Wow, wow, wow - so have you thanked him lately? You know, do you feel that in your heart?
P: (laughing) Good idea.
BK: Yeah, it really is.
P: So let me do that right now - Thank you Dad, thank you, thank you for everything you did and didn't do.
BK: Yeah, and for dying right on time.
P: (off-screen) He did indeed.
Jon Willis |
March 4, 2007 11:53 AM
March 4, 2007 11:53
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