Katieism: If you want something to be different than it is…

If you want something to be different than it is, you might as well teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, “Meow.” Wanting something to be different than it is hopeless. – Byron Katie


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  1. Katie,
    I’m working my way through “Losing the Moon”, do you recommend this book, I see is not on your website…
    Are we everyone (I am the mother, the baby, the nazi, the fire) – or are we all “separate”?

  2. I’ve read scores of self help, self improvement, relationship advice and psychology-of-success books over the years, some of them excellent, some not so much, but an introduction to this website in March really blew me away.

    I had been really stuggling with all kinds of anxiety, relationship issues and self esteem issues for years, but when I applied “the work” to most of what was bothering me, it completely disarmed those worries.

    The simple questions method and peaceful acceptance of what is – has irrevocably changed my view of life, my response to daily challenges and most startling – it has turned a very troubled relationship around in a few months.

    I have written down the questions and the words “now, turn it around” and “loving what is” in a little notebook I carry everywhere, to refer to, when the going gets tough. Now, though, after just a couple of months of practice, I almost automaticaly apply them.

    “The work” seems the antithesis of all those self help and success manuals and yet those four questions provide a much more powerful method for a serene life – which for me IS success.

    I feel profoundly grateful – thankyou.

  3. well i have just read and listened to some of, the work, simple really yet so hard to do, until now. im going to get the book. can u come to new zealand katie? yr fabulous. thanks,

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