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Posted by Byron Katie on May 6, 2007 5:39 PM
Here's the transcript for this one. Jon x
Video: Inquiry - "My Son Refuses To See Me"
P: I am saddened by my son Robert because he has refused to see me for the last 2 years and won't let me see my 3 grandchildren.
BK: So he has refused to see you, is that true?
P: Well yes, erm...
BK: (starts off-camera) And how do you react when you think that thought "He refuses to see me", let's say you are sitting in your favorite chair at home, it's a beautiful day, you are looking out the window, the sun is shining, the flowers are blooming, it's beautiful - all is well, you're in a state of grace.
BK: And out of nowhere - boom - the thought hits "He refuses to see me".
BK: (off-camera) What happens, how do you react when you think that thought?
P: I feel like there's a huge hole. I feel very, very lonesome. And it feels like there's a huge cloud over the world and over me.
P: I think about them, I think about the children and I want to love them and give to them and I want...
BK: (starts off-camera) How does that feel to sit on a perfect day in a state of grace with the thought "He refuses to see me"?
P: It feels like life is out of reach to me.
BK: Yeah... now continue to be in that same position on that same day in your favorite chair. Who would you be without the thought "He refuses to see me"?
P: Well I would be happy because, I would be happy just thinking about him and his wife and the children and I would be able to connect with my husband better because that sadness is always there.
BK: (starts off-camera) Yeah. Now look at you, in your favorite chair on a perfect day without the thought - what do you see?
P: I see peace, peacefulness.
BK: (starts off-camera) Yes, doesn't the world come into focus there, you can actually see the walls and the chair that's supporting you, you can look out the window, I mean the world is in focus again the way it really is.
BK: A state of grace.
BK: So "He refuses to see me", turn it around.
P: I refuse to see him.
BK: Yes, now give me an example of how that's true.
P: That's true because I have not allowed him to see the path from his eyes instead of through mine.
BK: Wow, wow. (off-camera) That's huge.
BK: Give me another example of how you refuse to see him.
P: Well, when he would tell me that, I mean he was really pretty clear I realize now in saying "Mom, just let the past be the past and let's just, let me be who I am and just love me for who I am" and I couldn't, I just felt that he had to see what was true.
BK: Yes, so you refused to see him and hear him.
BK: Can you find another way that you refused to see him?
BK: I have one, would you like to hear it?
BK: If my son's refused to see me I might just park my car somewhere where they couldn't see me and wait for them to come in and out of the house just so I could see their precious faces.
P: Well, I tell you I've been tempted to do that.
BK: But I wouldn't get caught because I would honor what they wanted.
P: Yeah, I haven't done it though.
BK: Yeah, yeah, but you know where is it that I refuse to see my sons in all the ways that we're discussing now, but you hit on all the important ones.
BK: And then to sit and look back at the rest of what he has been trying to tell you for a long, long time and how you didn't see him and didn't see him, so that maybe you can call his voicemail or maybe get him and say "I got it, I got it, I've been refusing to hear you and I can hear you now, I'm open - tell me, tell me, tell me, tell me, I don't care where you go, I want to experience your life as you have understood it and seen it."
BK: (starts off-camera) "I want to hear everything and if I can, if I say one thing to stop that or block it would you please catch me before I do. I want to hear you."
P: I think I can do that.
BK: I think so too, I think so too.
BK: Yeah - you know, I love that we can get our sons back in just a few moments of, just, opening our minds and our hearts.
Jon Willis |
May 8, 2007 5:06 PM
May 8, 2007 17:06
Whoa! This one took me all the to the bank! There is no interpretation necessary, in fact any would be arrogance, an ignorance! The total humility of perfection already, head bowed down in grace. A true Namaste. Not just my sons, but the entire universe of whatever is. Real fearless self-love and respect. There are no separate, struggling victims. There is just THIS What Is and THIs What Is. Defenseless, yet victim to nothing. One does need to negate the apparent other, for each is the okayness of What Is. True service is seen as both a selfless and selfish act in a turnaround kind of way - no one is here but for THIS okayness and in seeing this I service my true self. It appears that gratitude beyond belief Is all there is!
Bonnie Lee Perry |
May 8, 2007 10:14 AM
May 8, 2007 10:14
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