Participant Answers: Teleconference on School Aftercare

The following is a compilation of April 2007 School participants’ answers regarding “Aftercare.” The questions they were asked were:

1. Have you kept The Work alive since leaving The School through the partnering exercise? If yes, what was your experience?

2. Do you have any specific questions for Katie about integrating The Work into your daily life? (As Katie did not have enough time to answer the conference call questions below, she has invited all of you to jump in with your own answers and to serve others with your own experience.)

3. Any general comments?

Dear Family, I would love that your responses go up on the blog, and that you answer through your own experience, enlightenment, and generosity, to share with anyone who may want to learn from you what you have come to see for yourself.

 

1. Have you kept The Work alive since leaving The School through the partnering exercise? If yes, what was your experience?

I have been doing The Work every day since leaving the School, both with partners and on my own. It has brought me many huge insights and I have had many stressful thought let go of me during this time. It is the first thing that I turn to when any stressful thoughts arise. I think the idea of the partners was brilliant because it gave me someone else to commit to, which prevented me from making excuses for not doing The Work myself.

Ann

Yes, I have continued with The Work. Wonderful breakthroughs. I have partners until our conference call on June 2nd.

Sally

Yes, I love it, I kept my round-robin partner plus the school partner and I am amazed at how happy I am. What I see is that by “having The Work for breakfast & lunch” my mind questions all the time, it doesn’t accept anything at face value, and I am so happy as a result. I look forward to facilitation every day.

Debi

Yes. I have been able to do The Work every day with my partners from the School. This has been a very positive experience. The daily connection with someone who is as interested and committed to doing The Work as I am feels wonderful. It’s keeping me on track and doing The Work at least once a day and often more than once when I self-facilitate an underlying belief that came up from The Work with my partner. Also, this experience has helped me to see how to let my partners’ Work be my work too, silently answering in my head the questions and doing the turnarounds. I have also gotten some much needed help in seeing different turnarounds and finding underlying beliefs.

Tracey

I’ve actually grown attached to doing The Work with my “partner for the day.” It allows The Work to work me, quietly, steadily. I cannot imagine not having these calls and am look forward to doing the round robin.

Lorna

Yes, I have kept up each day. THANK YOU FOR SETTING UP THE PARTNERING ACTIVITY on the last day of School. It has worked great!

I have developed a habit now, so that I think I will want to do The Work each day. I have already signed up for round robin for June so I don’t miss any day.

Anne

I have kept The Work very alive in me since leaving the School. The round robin exercise has been so valuable—from having the time committed (I like doing it for breakfast) to taking me out of the illusion of separation by showing me there IS someone who wants to hear this stuff and work with me. I reach out for help every day, connect with another and let someone guide me. Lastly, I always realize so much about myself when I am facilitating. A new thought for me to question that the other person happened to mention or simply working through a similar thought simultaneously has taken facilitation from the place of “just serving the other” to being about relationship and going deeper within myself at the same time. I love that you led us to discover how much we need each other and exactly how to make that connection happen.

Sonja

Yes, very much so. I’ve done many of the days so far, except when someone had an unusual event, such as moving. The partnering is an incredible experience that has helped me to get into a serious daily practice of doing The Work, studying about The Work by reading, watching videos, online groups, etc., and connecting with others who are interested in The Work. I also feel that my practice of The Work is helping to transform most of my relationships, no matter how casual, and the tools of The Work are transferable to daily interactions at work, with family, in public, etc. It is a truly remarkable technique and I am feeling now that I will never be the same because I am choosing to be part of something so much greater.

Cori

Yes. With some people it’s been easy and fun, even on mornings where I thought I was too lazy to do it. But more surprising: with those people I’ve found it harder to do The Work, it’s been especially enriching, because I see that my doing The Work always wins. As long as I come from an open mind, it always does.

Eric

I have kept up The Work, and can feel it living in me. The phone call schedule has been good, overall. I have been sick, had schedule changes etc.—so not 100% coverage, but it has been beneficial each time. Every partner has followed through. Some days I get lazy and don’t want to take the time, but each time I do, I feel the energy and the loosening of the belief. Good idea to have the phone call system. I look forward to the phone call June 2.

Nina

So far, I’m on the fourth partner and everyone has been available and reliable without fail; I am happily surprised. It’s a pleasure and somehow helpful to me to hear about the wonderful successes of other people and how The Work is working in their lives. I love to hear these stories, and I solicit them from my partners. I ask them to call me or write me and tell me how it’s working for them, and it fills me with gladness when they do. I offer to help or support them in any way, because I really want this for them when they want it. I think this also encourages me to rely on my own work and not be tempted to find solutions in story life, but to trust, to have faith and welcome the stillness that is the resolution of all my imagined problems.

Bill

Yes! I have loved, loved, loved the partnering exercise. It is brilliant and a very good way to make sure The Work becomes a daily part of life. It has also helped me to develop relationships with friends from The School that are not “site specific,” meaning that the relationships are continuing to grow and didn’t end when The School did. I am also doing Worksheets aside from talking with partners because it is becoming a natural response. Thank you for this exercise!

Anonymous

The power of The Work really came through for both my mom and me last night when my mom’s mare went into labor. To put a “cap” on the story, all started out looking really great and on course until there was a major complication in the delivery process. Right away I heard Katie’s voice “there is no such thing as bad news.” My usual panic in emergency situations turned into absolute calm, peace, and presence. From this state I was 100% able to do what needed to be done. As beliefs came up in the process, The Work “did” me in the background so that I could stay present to my tasks. I felt no fear and rather only that the “universe is friendly.” It was amazing how clearly I heard Katie’s voice.

After a huge and gallant attempt, the foal died. Being there with my mom, who has invested an immense amount of time and money into this foal, and who also actively does The Work, was incredible. The two other women were quite concerned about my mother’s state of mind and when she wasn’t there, would ask me, “Is she going to be okay?” I knew with 100% certainty that she would not only be okay, but would find all the places in which there is gratitude.

I had a huge release of energy a couple of hours later in which my body began to shake and my teeth chatter. Without a story, I allowed it to move through me like a big wave and that was it, the stress was gone. I discovered that my core belief was “I can control death.” What a load I have carried when I’ve believed that!!! The experience was absolutely beautiful and peaceful. Even today I don’t have any residual stress around the situation. I really feel like the process moved me with absolute grace and guidance. All I had to do was answer questions once in a while.

Other than that, yes, I have been doing The Work every day. I have been in contact with my list of people. I have called the hotline a couple of times and have LOVED the people I have spoken with. That is an amazing service!!!

Please keep that going. I do Worksheets everyday, and there were a dozen a day when I first immersed, and now less and less. The Work seems to be naturally transitioning into my mind.

Gabriella

I have kept The Work alive since leaving the School. The telephone partners have both helped me to be more present. I have had great realizations with the phone partners. Yet spending time with someone else that went to the School is even better.

Everything is helping me to keep The Work alive. Sometimes just giving things first-generation names brings me right back to the present moment. Reading Katie’s last book right now also helps reinforce the insights. The Work has changed my life. It is so amazing. I am so grateful. Thank you.

Anonymous

It’s been quite helpful to have the commitment to support a fellow participant, which has “forced” me to incorporate The Work into my daily life. I’ve been a corporate trainer and consultant for over 15 years and this is the best follow-up program I’ve ever experienced.

Stephen

Yes! It has been fantastic to do The Work with so many different people. I have learned so much about how to listen more deeply, so that I am facilitating The Work the way each person enjoys and not according to a formula. My biggest learning was with a partner I labeled as “blowing me off.” I had to do The Work on that, and it was fantastic to see how much I follow the rules outside me and how judgmental I become about those rules when it serves me to be judgmental, and how superior I feel when I am “doing it right” I have a lot of statements to explore as a result of seeing those stressful judgments.

I am already doing The Work two or three times a week with others, but I find that having a partner each morning, first thing, has made my day a lot more enjoyable (and less stressful). I now see why Katie says to have The Work for breakfast. I enjoy doing The Work with other people because I learn so much from what they say when they do their own work. It all seems to be merging into one me… the universe supporting me with opportunities to see myself face a belief from another vantage point…

Bobbie

My partnering experience has been great. I have connected with 3 of my 4 partners and found the four days without a partner to be difficult. My current partner has been life-changing.

Brenda

Have “I” kept The Work alive? No, the turnaround is so much more true. The Work has kept me alive and keeps on doing so in a rapturous way.

Ronan

Yes! This follow-up system is fantastic. It helps very very much in keeping The Work alive and happening. It is very interesting and rewarding to facilitate and be facilitated by different people, rotating every few days, and to be supported in the amends. Really keeps the School alive and progressing. Absolutely inspired idea.

Sage

My experience in doing The Work with other classmates has been very worth while. I have had a facilitator who was, quote, “living above the fear level” and had nothing to process. I enjoyed being the recipient… and I learned from story …. I have had facilitators who liked to share story… after the process… and others who were simply following directions… fitting The Work into their busy lives whenever they could just like I did. It always left me with a sense of being more at peace. I am thankful for this Work, Katie, for your dedication and for the opportunity to be in your presence once more… I am looking forward to the next assignment after this 28 day assignment.

Inge

Yes, I have talked with a partner daily each day. This process is very helpful and is a wonderful way to keep doing The Work. I plan to keep doing it—probably through the round robin and/or hotline, as well as with a local friend who also attended the School.

Cara

Yes, I have. It’s been excellent. I want to carry this daily process on and am approaching my past partners to ask if they want to do it. I have explored so many things. “I need to stay alive” was wonderfully freeing. I find I don’t NEED to stay alive and suddenly I feel a sense of spacious freedom. Nothing needs to happen. I become free of worry about the future there is only this beautiful grace filled moment. What I call “my worries” dissolve. I don’t need to carry them.

Angela

Yes, I did! My experience was that these planned “appointments” with others helped me to continue the “appointment” with myself, now that I am back home, and that old routine quickly tries to install back!

Sabine

I’ve done The Work every day since leaving the School – I’ve either worked with a partner or I’ve called the hotline when they’re not available and once did The Work with my boyfriend when not possible to do with someone from the School. It’s been really good to have the exercise of doing it, and having it as a formal task. I’m really pleased it was there and I’ve felt that it has carried me through the hard times since leaving. In the first week or so, I had real doubts – why did I go to the school? What a lot of money, and I got nothing out of it …. and just to make myself keep going, questioning, being with it all as it integrated was fantastic. And realising that a LOT has changed and is continuing to do so in small and large ways. Having the daily practice helps me grow my relationship with The Work. A couple of times I’ve had big emotions and feeling awful—in both of those times it was HARD to make myself do The Work—I wanted to be in my story somehow and didn’t believe anything would change. And I questioned and questioned and the feeling fell away. Growing my connection with The Work day by day. I’d never done it before going to the School, so this has been really important. Wonderful changes.

Harriet

I have been doing The Work everyday with the partners that we set up at the school. What a BRILLIANT idea that was and a truly wonderful experience. I LOVED IT! (and still do!) It was a delight to speak with different friends and further learn and understand how to be on both sides of inquiry. As well as using the hotline when needed, such INCREDIBLE support all around to really help this Work live and grow in me. I am totally in love with these 4 questions, Katie, the staff, everyone that is asking, answering, listening and becoming clearer and becoming a friend…. and I continue to be amazed and in gratitude for the shifts and openings. Sometimes I really truly just can’t believe it, like it’s too good to be true(?), I feel like The Work is THE BEST THING EVER, and I just cry… I notice that the contrast is so much clearer, as soon as I am believing something that is stressful and untrue I feel it… I see my world shrink and my heart close, and sometimes I do inquiry right away, and sometimes I seem to just sit with it and let it torture me for a little while longer! But I am learning, every day, following the simple instructions and putting one foot in front of the other, and hearing “They don’t call it The Work for nothing”… Ah yes, I can see that…

Caroline

I have kept The Work alive since leaving the School. It has been a wonderful experience!!!!!! I notice we keep going deeper as we gain more experience.

Marsha

I’ve been doing The Work and sharing The Work daily since the School. It’s been a very profound experience. I feel more grounded in The Work, more connected to the consistency of the internal questioning.

Ellen

2. Do you have any specific questions for Katie about integrating The Work into your daily life?

I am wondering how I can make my facilitation more fluid and heart-felt instead of being a recitation of the Blue Sheet— my concern is this: I have a great respect for not straying from the guidelines, because I have seen how this blocks my own inquiry when my facilitators have done this. I hear Katie’s very natural facilitation with people, but I also believe that she operates out of a teaching mode, necessarily, rather than simply facilitator, and I am not about to do that during facilitation. Anything you might have to say about this would be appreciated.

Bill

I have a question about turnarounds and giving examples: Should they be concrete examples from our lives giving proof of that turnaround, or should they be different examples of how that turnaround could be true, whether it relates directly to our life or not ?

Harriet

For me it is still difficult to catch & find a thought to work on… Resistance?

I see and understand the beauty and deep level of transformation of this Work, often I don’t know how to start it myself with “a case” to work on…

Sabine

Am having trouble with the notion that one cannot feel another’s pain. I understand where Katie is coming from because after her cosmic experience she knows there is no Katie and no “you” and all is a projection. But for us earthlings that still experience ourselves as real, our awareness of compassion and our motivation to end suffering comes from the experience of thinking that I can feel another’s pain. Whether it’s my belief that I’m in pain or my belief that you are in pain, what’s the difference? Do not both situations lead us to inquire? Am I not you? When I’m in your business, could that in fact BE my business because you are my projection?

The danger I think is to use The Work to prematurely deny my pain or your pain. When Katie does The Work I feel the Love as my thinking is receiving the death blow. When I do The Work with others, sometimes I feel judged , or not understood, or coldly taken through the process and I don’t feel loved. What is the difference? Is it really what I’m projecting? Why is Katie so flawless? Why do we all feel such Love and know to the deepest core of our being that this is the REAL DEAL, yet with others asking the same questions so perfectly it feels like a cold intellectual process. I want to be able to facilitate and communicate that sort of unconditional Love. Will I get there through the process of layer by layer questioning my thoughts? Katie had the disintegration of ego though this depersonalized (some would call it psychotic) experience. I have not had that experience so my reference point is my pain and the experience of pain that another reports to me and I resonate with that. As I resonate I am motivated to end both of our suffering. I’m motivated to do the “Work” because I see it lessons my pain but ALSO I see it resolving pain in others. Is this bad when I’m happy that others have relief and freedom and appear happy? Some enlightened masters say I must rid myself of attachment to the “Good” (as defined by me) as well as releasing the pain and stress, the “Bad.” Is The Work just a stage in dealing with the ”Bad”? Can I look at my pain or your pain just as a signal that we are both off?

Joan

I don’t know if I’m making sense, but this is what’s running around in my mind.

My question has to do with spinning. Several partners have asked “is it true” once we are already into question 3, they say it isn’t spinning, my question is if it isn’t spinning what is the difference? Or am I misunderstanding what spinning is?

Debi

On following simple instructions; I usually get many instructions and while doing one task, I get others and if I don’t follow them right away I forget them so I end up jumping around and since there are usually many instructions, most of the tasks are left undone or I get overwhelmed. My question is how to know which instruction is coming from the place of being (heart) and which one from the place of doing (believed thoughts)?

I have heard that while we are facilitating, we also should be doing our own Work (I assume this means: go in and answer the questions for ourselves). First, have I heard this correctly? And second, if yes, how do we do this and hold the space for the client? When I have tried to do this, I have missed what the client said.

Roya

I would like to hear Katie address the difference between doing The Work “for breakfast“ and overdoing it. She often talks about being gentle with ourselves. I tend to be overly responsible, and according to friends and family, I work too hard, try too hard, and am too hard on myself. For me and others who tend to over achieve and over do, I’d like to hear Katie talk about what being gentle with ourselves looks like and how to not “overdo” The Work.

Also, since I’ve gotten home from L.A., I seem to be more emotionally honest than I was before I went to L.A. I find myself feeling happier when I’m happy. I am also quicker to anger and to admit my anger. I used to deny it and repress it and could keep a tighter lid on it before I went to the School. Is this what Katie was referring to when she said we would become like the princess and the pea? I am wondering if Katie has any thoughts on what changes we might expect to see in our selves as we continue to do The Work on a daily basis.

Tracey

Whose business are you in when you say that you hate your job? Is my job my business, others’ business or God’s business? Isn’t everything God’s business, my business and others’ business? How am “I” different from “my thinking”?

On the DVD “Loving the One You’re With,” there was the statement that “Frank is always upset with my behavior.” The turnaround of “I am always upset with my behavior” works; however, the turnaround of “Frank is never upset with my behavior” did not work because it didn’t feel right. How do I know the difference between (1) turnarounds that don’t work and (2) turnarounds that do work but I instinctively dislike? At what age does your business separate from your child’s? In the “one belief at a time” Worksheet, what does the question of “How do I treat myself?” mean beside addiction? Sometimes I am so anxious, I get relief from knowing, but I hear that the not knowing mind is better.

Tim

My question for Katie is; how do you do The Work with family members if they are not asking you to help them (particularly children) but they say things to you that you know could be looked at differently from the view of The Work?

Lorna

No. But I do have a question about doing an inquiry into “My daughter should not financially support her partner.” Are turnarounds permissible such as: “I should not financially support her partner.” “I should financially support her partner.” Does “My thinking…” work in a turnaround?

Anne

Katie, I am a psychotherapist and I would love to hear your ideas (or others’!) about doing The Work with children in a therapeutic setting. Is there anything that is done differently with children? If there are no tools yet for applying The Work specifically with children, I would love to help create some. Or be connected with others already doing this work. I feel so passionate about taking this work to children, who are still so flexible and open, and whom I feel could live immeasurably richer lives–as well as transform planetary culture–with The Work. Thank you all so much, I cannot express in words what is happening, but I like to call it LOVE.

Cori

I am concerned about going forward without a partner. This has been blissful, but can it remain real?

Brenda

I have had an eating disorder for most of my life and am doing a lot of worksheets on it. I don’t seem to be finding much peace about it on my own. Particularly since the School, my eating has been really excessive. I am re-visiting Overeaters Anonymous and so far am not finding much peace there either. Is there any possibility of a group/community of people doing The Work around eating disorders in particular or addictions in general? It sure seemed that there were many people who had food/addiction issues at the School and I’m this school was not unique in that.

Anonymous

Yes, could you talk about the fading effect after the School that I and so many folks both feared and talked about. For the first several days I wept for joy and gratitude at almost anything. Maybe it’s just as well that that has passed, as I fly an airliner for a living, and we do have this cockpit protocol, so to speak. Of course we do have tissues, too.

But things are a bit different, and though I am free in a bright, strange new way, I sometimes miss the bliss that permeated everything right after School.

Bill

I have been thinking about going to another one so that I can go more deeply into it. What kind of feedback do you get from people that have attended it twice or more? I look forward to seeing you all again.

Aloha,

Ryan

I have a question around facilitating: I know there are no ‘rules’ but when is it ‘okay’ to move to ‘I’ statements? You reminded us of this half way through the April School, and I got a bit confused about this at that point.

I see where questioning a judgement about another person works the best to get one started… and how the curriculum is geared to that process. It allows me to deal with the thoughts one by one, in bite-sized pieces. When I am looking at a big judgement, this process allows the fear of facing my truth and the walls I experience around the ego defenses to come down in a manageable way And once I start to turn it around I feel a lot more kindness and courage toward myself than I may have initially if I started with ‘I’ statements.

I suspect the answer is that it is an organic process to naturally move to ‘I’s’ from Judging a Neighbor. Maybe when the agendas start dropping away? After questioning a judgement, I inevitably end up with a list of ‘I’ statements. This list is exploding exponentially with every judgement I question … after all, it is all about me. So then I question those thoughts. And it does work for me. For example I noticed a lot of the thoughts on the Universal Belief sheet are ‘I’ statements.

If I am facilitating someone newer to The Work, do you have any guidance as to when it is ‘okay’ to start questioning the ‘I’ statements? I referred a friend to the hotline a while back, and the facilitator refused to do ‘I have issues with getting a job’ with her for this reason. Sometimes a thought is hard to phrase as a judgement about another when your client is an aware person.

Anonymous

3. Any general comments?

No questions. The more I do The Work, the more I learn and the happier I become. I am slowly learning to see my motives in doing The Work. They are tricky because the “I know mind” wants to know. Sometimes when I believe I am doing The Work for peace, I find an underlying motive. The biggest one for me has been belief-busting. My “I know mind” would say, “I want to eliminate that belief” and I would do The Work with a huge agenda. In order to counteract that I consciously say to myself, “I’ll do The Work on this belief and it just might be true”. That helps me to be less opinionated.

Thanks so much! My life has changed in immeasurable ways since I have returned from my second School. Everyone is telling me I am so much more loving and compassionate and relaxed. People are calling out of the blue to have me facilitate The Work with them. It is so interesting. The most important thing that I feel is an inner sense of comfort and safety with the Me inside. I am less dependent on the outside world, and I am learning to follow the simple directions from my own heart. When I live that way everything is magical. It is paradoxical and antithetical to my story about what society teaches, but as I care less about what others think, I become free and others give me exactly what I wanted before and don’t really care about now.

Loving The Work for allowing me to appreciate what is,

Bobbie

Monthly conference calls with Katie would be great—though the time commitment is likely too great for her to do it this often. I believe that having monthly conference calls with other skilled facilitators, with Katie doing them occasionally, when her schedule allows, would be very beneficial.

I would like to work with a friend to eventually bring The Work to Colorado Springs, but need some guidance as to how to go about doing so. After attending the one-day event in Salt Lake (Oct 2006) that was sooo successful, we would love to replicate that success in Colorado Springs. It would be wonderful to facilitate the growth of a a community of practitioners of The Work locally, to live among, and to support each other through The Work.

Anonymous

Also on the sheet you said to keep the call to 20-30 minutes, which we found very difficult to do. The farther the weeks progressed the longer it took. Sometimes it took 30 minutes for 1 person. I am unsure of how to simplify The Work to make that 15 minute request.

Debi

I had the great fortune of being at the School last April. Now I have the internal life I’ve been searching for. Even fifteen years of meditation practice could not deliver what your four questions have. My gratitude expands in all directions. The Work has radically changed my life.

A present lack of phone and Internet access has precluded me from participating in the School’s follow-up exercise. Hopefully a line hook-up will come to my home soon. In the meantime, The Work has saturated my days, filling many journals. It’s even unwinding me in my dreams. As soon as I get phone access I would like to start exchanging The Work with others. On that note, there are a couple things I’ve found helpful, that I would like to offer others. I’m wondering if there is any reason I shouldn’t. I noticed other people do variations of these things as well.

1. After question #3 and its sub-questions, I like to ask “What do I get from hanging onto this thought? What is the pay-off?” I might follow this with sub-questions. “Is it working? Am I getting what I want from this thought?” If so, “Is the thought mandatory for me to meet these desires or is it possible there is another way?”

An example of one of my pay-offs on a stressful thought is “I hang onto thinking that ’My writing is stupid’ because criticizing it makes me feel less vulnerable and smart.” Ridiculous, I know, however, if I get to question #4 without noticing the pay-off I have a harder time.

2. Along with the turnarounds that we’ve already learned (which are most important), I’m finding other helpful turnarounds by flipping words around in the original sentence.

If for example the original statement is ”I want to keep an empty mind,” possible word-flip turnarounds would be: “I want to empty a mind kept. I want to mind an empty keeping. I empty to keep a wanting mind. I empty to want a mind kept. I empty to mind a want kept. I mind to want an empty wanting. I mind to want an empty keeping. I mind to empty a want kept.”

This was one of my statements, and all these turnarounds had significance for me. Also, I find in general that when I use up every possible word combination that works for me, and define each one, the words themselves take on different meanings, helping my mind to cut loose from the original statement, and expand. In this instance I found that emptiness doesn’t lose itself by being full of thought. So now, I mind an empty keeping!

Katie, I love you. I love your books, your videos, your web site. I love how you talk, how you look, what you say. I love your gestures and glances, how you give yourself.

My love for you is infinite. And my gratitude is as big as the sky.

Juju

Hmm. I don’t have any specific questions. Well, maybe I do, it’s more a question to myself. I think “The Work” is more important than my work, and it is not as of now reflected in the amount of time I spend on it, and how I talk to “strangers” and patients of mine (I am a chiropractor). How to do that right now, this instance (spend time accordingly)? Without losing money (…..), since I don’t own my house completely yet. So I do The Work and I do my work, and I wait for the answer from inside, and respect me for choosing money/ responsibility/ house…… sometimes. My can of worms opens and I look at statements such as “I have to have a house to do what I want,” “I don’t do what I want,” “No one will take care of me if I do what I want even more,” “I have to have money,” “I am not being straight.” And there’s a one-liner about time in there as well, can’t get it clear right now. Time matters? Funny thing is, The Work is part of my work, just in the way I am present and communicate. No small feat. If the whole world stopped now, I would have gotten everything I wanted from The Work, and I still want to help make it more accessible, alive, wherever I am (or will be) beyond me.

Andreas

Sometimes I wake up with this sense of something wrong and it is happening prior to my being able to have awareness of the preceding thought. I have begun to work with some of the statements from the Universal Beliefs list when that is happening. That is helpful but I’m curious if there is a way to determine what specifically triggers that anxiety for me. I am looking forward to the next assignment.

Marsha

How about a form on thework.com that allows people to fill in the blanks onscreen (on a Judge-Your-Neighbor or One-Belief Worksheet) and then print out your filled sheet and save it to your computer? You can clear the form when you’re done, then it automatically clears when you quit your browser. Basically these are online questionnaires for the user that BKI would provide without saving the responses.

Anonymous

(Note from Maggie: We have these ready to go when our webmaster has time to put them up.)

I’m finding that in doing The Work every day I’m almost searching for stressful thoughts. My greatest fear in doing The Work is that I would lose my peaceful moments and my joy, and I’m afraid at some level that seems to be happening. I have moments of total peace right after doing The Work and then I’m off to look for another stressful thought. I’m finding that my mind is chattering more than ever and I can’t seem to quiet it. (that is something I really need to do The Work on: “I can’t quiet my mind.”)

Anonymous

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  1. I LOVED having the Work phone calls for breakfast, and i love noticing how i’ve felt in the time without the asignment. now i am really ready to sign up for the round robin.

    after the initial homecoming bliss (similar to what Bill shared earlier), i have had days where i felt so “hazy and grey” that i couldn’t even identify a feeling, let alone a prior belief. it felt like “dream hangover”. the only thing that would help, was to sit down and write whatever came out. sometimes it would start very incoherently, but i kept writing sentence for sentence and eventually, without fail, i would get to the current story to investigate. afterwards the fog lifted, the tiredness was gone and i could see clearly again.
    Thank you Katie and staff, for all the brilliant things you come up with to help us staying in the work. i look forward to more…

    Claudia

  2. i am full of smiles from the inside out as i read your contributions and appreciations of Katie and The Work. such a gift Katie. continually enriches my life. breda

  3. The Work has stayed alive in me in many wonderful and excitng ways since coming home from The School. My partners have all been wonderful and the variety of people I do The Work with now is so amazing. Before The School there were days I would do The Work once, twice or three times and I would not do it consistently every day. Now I do The Work consistently every day and the once, twice or three times is so much more meaningful for me. My life is being experienced in a new way with my stories having less and less negative effect on me. In doing The Work since I came home, I have begun to lose the story of a bad childhood-I found through The Work no proof to support my bad childhood story, only bad thoughts about it. One of my favorite ways my partner and I have kept The Work alive since The School is we opened our home to The Work Slumber Party Weekend over Memorial Day weekend, we sat with 11 people-8 of whom were new to The Work-and facilitated The Work almost around the clock for the entire weekend. We saw so many amazing pops for all who were willing to do The Work and we had a dance at the end of the night with the music from The School. We plan to have it as an annual event and look forward to hosting our BK family members from everywhere!!! And this was the prelude to the new Inquiry Circle we will start in our home in July when I have returned from staffing The School in CT!!! The Work works and it is working me…I am so grateful!!!
    Loving this friendly Universe…HUGS!!! Phil

  4. How fantastic to read the comments.
    My dream is to get to the US one day to attend the school (actually to have Katie teach in Australia would be better!). For now it has been divine and heart felt to read about what it was like. I especially liked the turnaround on keeping the work alive and I need to stay alive. I remember as a child waking in the middle of the night believing I could fly (I often had those dreams) I get that same feeling when I do the work now (freedom)and the results are just as amazing. Thankyou Katie and all that hold the work close to all that they are. Love all ways Michele

  5. when i do the work honestly, deeply, it becomes a transformative experience and enhances life ten-fold. It really goes nice with the meditation practices i do regularly…they go hand in hand for they both lead to the Heart.

    what continues to amaze me is the brilliant clarity and freedom that comes from 4 questions. I can tell these simple questions come from a deep place because they are very powerful to undo our BELIEFS about reality and come to the real thing without even a single thought.

    Ever since the gift of meditation and The Work came into my life, i have been living in that beautiful open space called “I don’t know.” Without even knowing what to do, life seems to be a happening of its own.

    much Love,
    jacob

  6. I am a Pastoral Associate at St. Monica Catholic Church in Edmond, Oklahoma. Katie graciously helped me come study with her almost 5 years ago. I was concerned about how The Work would fit in with my Catholic beliefs…for a Catholic, the Truth isn’t something – it is Someone, Jesus Christ. But I have found that The Work ALWAYS leads to The Truth and so it is completely in harmony with the Love that is Christ. I use The Work every day with clients and in my own personal life – sometimes I imagine how much more love and power I could have had in my life if I’d learned The Work at 18 or 20 instead of at 55…So, I especially love sharing it with the young…but I just did it with an 84 year old man whose stressful thought was, “If I die, my wife will be penniless.” So, it is ALWAYS my “go to” strategy…I put Byron Katie right up there with Bill W and Dr. Bob from AA. I love Katie and I’m so grateful to her for her brilliant idea. Katie Gordy

  7. Hello Tim,

    I did find your turnaround “Frank is never upset with my behavior” is profound:

    Frank is never upset with your behavior, he’s upset by the story he tells himself about your behavior..
    Could this be true or truer?

  8. I realy appreciate The Work and must say that this content has helped me and my family to look upon us self with a smile ;-). Yes, life feels better now.

    Thanks!
    Ulla

  9. I came to the April school in L.A
    with fear and trepitation. I am 74 yr. old and although my health is fine I struggle in ways I never had before. BUT–coming to the school, asking the 4 questions, being facilitated and facilitating others, listening to this wise woman Katie speak the truth — REALITY — has been a transforming experience. I have been able to drop many of my past judgements and thoughts that have hounded me for years. I now feel so light and happy and young again. Thank you Katie — thank you for the work, thank you for the people who have done the inquiry with me.
    I hope to explore and share this with seniors on the Big Island of Hawaii.

    Hara

  10. Since taking Katie’s workshop in Salt Lake City in March with my sister, we have been continuing to do the work with each other over the phone (she lives in Michigan and I in Wyoming). No matter who’s “one-liner” it is, we both reap the benefits and it is true: the work “works” you. Thank you Katie Byron!

  11. The very last Letter from “Anonymous” was concerned about a chattering mind, I too have found that my mind is chattering a lot since the school. last week I finally listened, and allowed it to chatter and ask me questions, and the same way I try to trust a facilitator, I trusted my mind. And found that it was safe. So the one-liner I have is: “my mind needs to stop chattering”.
    love, debi

  12. Stressful thought:
    I need to write something brilliant in katie’s blog
    Is that true? Yes, I like to be admired
    Can you absolutely know that it’s true? No, can’t know.
    How do you react when you believe it?
    I get all stressed out. I believe that no one will like me if I don’t write something profound. I feel like I need to show off and demonstrate to everyone how brilliant and insightful I am. What a good case for the work. I feel ridiculous.
    Who would I be w/o the thought? I would be peaceful and relaxed sitting here. I would be OK and know that I can’t impress Katie – it’s not necessary. She loves me no matter what and I don’t need her approval. I approve of me. I love me. I have peace.

    I don’t need to write something brilliant in katie’s blog.
    I don’t even know if she’ll read it.
    There’s nothing that needs to be said
    Who’s the judge of brilliant?

    I need to write something brilliant in my blog
    Yes, truer
    I have always wanted to start a blog
    I need to talk to me.
    I am the one I am seeking approval of – I can find it in a work blog

    I need to write something dumb in katie’s blog.
    Who cares? It’s only dumb if someone thinks it is
    It’s just a space for comments, dumb or not
    Dumb if much less stressful and easier than brilliant

    I need to write something brilliant with my THINKING
    Ah Hah
    Yes, that’s what minds do
    I can communicate in writng about my thoughts – all stories are just thoughts on paper.
    Maybe I can find my story by writing.

    Sweet. Thanks thought. Thanks Katie. Thanks Partners, you are all wonderful teachers and I love each and every one of you. (thanks ME too for doing the work).

  13. Hello!

    I am not a graduate of the April 2007 School–I have not gotten that far with The Work. Is there another blog or discussion forum available to ask Katie some questions on issues she address in Loving What Is?

    Thanks very much for your help!

    Michelle

  14. katie,
    i heard you talk briefly about doing the work with a motive. could you expand on that some more? i realized in a session with my phone partner that i have probably never done the inquiry WITHOUT a motive: to end the pain, to anihilate the thoughts that apparently caused the pain (i did not meet them as friends, even though i have heard you talk about it so many times!) , to get clarity,…
    how CAN you do inquiry without a motive?

    claudia

  15. Reply to Claudia
    Yes like you I notice I do the work with a motive – generally to change things!
    However I am able to do the work without a motive when I think the one liner does not apply to me or does not bother me much. When I am not expecting or grasping for something I may get a big surprise and experience something extraordinary!

    thanks to everyone on the blog and for all the amazing technology!
    love Isabel

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