Facing Breast Cancer

Dear Katie,
I am so scared and confused, because I have breast cancer. I got the diagnosis in September, and started medical treatment, I didn’t want surgery, to take the whole right breast off. I also found an independent doctor who supported me in doing this. A few days ago I did an ultrasound scan and they said the tumor has grown and I should have surgery. My other independent doctor says it has not grown, but become smaller, that my body can well keep it in balance. This is very hard for me now, to know what is true, to know what to do. I really don’t want to take the breast off, but if it really should be the only way to survive, of course I’d do it. I have managed very well feeling good about everything, and have used The Work a lot with all these questions and fears coming up. I felt really strong and healthy and happy until this ultrasound scan. Now it is as if I failed, and can’t trust my own feelings. It is too much for me right now. I would be so happy and grateful for some message from you. I feel so much love and trust for you, Katie, and The Work has helped me immensely all these years. I need to find peace and clarity in this situation. I need to be able to go on and make a decision. I have a family with three kids and a wonderful husband, and they are worried too. It is not easy to get out of the fear. (I have your video “Cancer Meets Inquiry,” but it has to be transformed to European video system, so I haven’t seen it yet.)
Very much love to you from ****

Dearest ****,
I am so happy that you reached out to ask, and in my own experience, if I have been using my body, my breasts, my physical appearance as any kind of collateral or bargaining power in my life, then of course I am frightened to lose an arm, a leg, a breast, because I am equating my body as value for trade. Self-love is all that is needed to be clear, with or without body parts. I don’t need body parts to be loved or to love. I love you, dearest, with or without, and how would you hear that differently with a breast or without it? Which is easier for you to believe? That is the test. Get a round-robin partner, and call the hotline, and heal your fear. I look forward to our time together in Europe this summer.
Loving you always,
kt

Dearest Katie,
Thank you so much for your answer! Self-love is all that is needed to be clear – YES, I see that. I will carry it with me. And I will work with the question you wrote, well, perhaps I would even hear you more clearly without a breast, who knows?
Lots of love from ****

Email: A Response to “I’m afraid of war”

Dear Katie,

I just saw the video “I’m afraid of war” from Israel which you included in the latest Newsletter.

I went through the inquiry for myself together with the Israeli woman, and I felt it applicable to every single stressful thought I ever had, which were all thoughts where I was at war with reality. That video is so incredibly powerful, it helped me at last fully assimilate the 300 or so inquiry worksheets I have written so far, I cried all the way though it and kept crying for some time afterwards, I guess it was all this accumulated tension leaving my body.

And what you told about doing inquiry with the veterans and your examples of the man burning to death and about having ones leg blown off, helped me at last feel deep inside my bones the deep meaning of your response to my email to the Parlor about when I was attacked and which had not fully sunk in until now. It would be helpful if some examples of explicit inquiries about physical harm could be published, and I understand why that is not always possible.

I have been doing Inquiry since January, have done about 300 inquiry worksheets so far and am doing about three new ones each day. I have now learned to go very deep inside and usually it takes me 30 to 60 minutes and 4 pages of writing to do each Inquiry. So I do not do two inquiries in a row because I need some time to let each one fully sink in. I also feel quite exhausted sometimes after a deep inquiry. I have learned to sit there waiting patiently with my pen in my hand because I have noticed that sometimes the deepest and most surprising answers to the questions take a while to come up, once the quick and easy ones are already on paper. I hope that I am not exaggerating with this, since the inquiries that have been published in your books and tapes seem to be so much shorter and quicker.

For the past few weeks I have been noticing that from time to time a little “Inquiry computer program” seems to start running inside my head when I think a stressful thought. So far it is only about the “easy” ones but I love the new experience.

I hope to attend October School in LA. I still have so much work to do on myself and I also know that I learn a lot from other people’s inquiries. And at some point in the future I hope to be able to contribute in some way to bringing The Work to more people around the world.

Thank you very much, Katie!

MARC 🙂

Book Review: “A Thousand Names for Joy”

A review by Stever Robbins:

Mindfulness practices, and philosophies often say, “Be happy, and accept what Is. Be present.” *cynical snort* Easily to say, impossible to do. The Devil is daily life. Sure, the Dalai Lama is serene. He meditates seven hours a day, has all his physical needs provided for by others, and needn’t deal with any daily details. And he’s celibate–no spouse to help him get dressed (“Oh, Tenzin, surely you’re not wearing the maroon robes, again!”), and no teenage kids. Who couldn’t be serene with that gig?

What’s remarkable about Byron Katie is that she’s serene in the midst of the modern, 21st century world. She has kids, a husband, an ex- husband, and an international business.

In this book, she attempts to put into words what it’s like, living in her world. Yeah, she talks about life and death and grand universal concepts. Yada yada yada. There are a thousand masters who’ll tell you about that.

Katie offers something infinitely more valuable: a glimpse into daily life. What is it like to get out of bed when you’re not attached to thoughts like “I have things to do?” What thoughts go through her mind? How about when she does the dishes? Or when she trips on her way to answer the front door? What if she’s mugged at gunpoint? Or her child dies? Or what if she’s struck by a degenerative eye disease while writing the book? How does that change (or not) her world?

Some of her perspectives on life are familiar. Some are vastly different from anything you’ve heard. Yet her world makes sense, and even though I’m not there yet, it sounds like an infinitely joyous, loving world worth living in.

If Katie isn’t a truly free, non-attached woman, she does the most convincing imitation I’ve ever heard. Buy the audiobook for a look into her world.

This book does NOT teach you The Work, her method of inquiring into your thoughts to reach this state of joy. For that, check out her book/audiobook Loving What Is, which includes facilitation sessions with real people using The Work.

The book is available in the BKI webstore and bookstores everywhere >>