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Dear Lynn,

I would like to comment on what you have stated here. I wish to let you know that I fully understand and that I can emphasize on how you feel, due to some feelings of isolation that I had in my own life, yet caused by different circumstances:

You wrote:
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When I read your statement above something came to mind as it caught my attention so much, that I started to look closer.

I do understand that it is hard to stay positive due to your life circumstances, and believe me I do have my own challenges where sometimes nothing seems to make sense....yet, ... and still....and because of the Law of Attraction there is a gift in this!

Would you, dear Lynn be able to replace the sentence "I too have special needs" ... into I HAVE SPECIAL GIFTS!!! ?

I realized that being 'isolated' enabled me to understand that I am to go within, as it is the pointer from the Universe of where I AM to be..... ALONE or ALL ONE! It is in the stillness and isolation where we can perceive and receive most of the messages consciously...

Again, and I am speaking from my heart to you, dear sweet and oh so strong Lynn ....

You are gifted with SPECIAL GIFTS to heal your son through your Love and Dedication.
You may have healing gifts that you don't know about yourself.... maybe you wish to see into this and how this may all play out .... Have you heard of, or tried techniques like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)? - just a thought - .... also by holding your faith and to see your son healed and to apply 'light therapy' via the mind upon him can help to move things on a Quantum Level in more ways than you may know yet....

Have you heard of "Fire the Grid", yet...? It is about a woman (Shelly Yates) whom saved her son from drowning, yet him being in the hospital where all doctors having given up already for this little boy to ever wake up and to live a healthy life? She got as much people together just to gather around him at the bed to think positive and healing thoughts as well as speaking only health affirmative things around him, and this little boy healed and woke up as if so nothing ever happened .... it took the energy of many in this case because he was on his death bed hooked up to machines that did the breathing for him....

I am transmitting this information to you thinking that it may trigger something in you that helps you 'remember'!

Again, I deeply feel that you can transform your life and your son's life as well as your perception about your life when you recognize that GOD, the Universe, only gives people problems where it is sure that they can handle them.....

Lynn has needs, of course and Lynn's needs are being met when LYNN steps into the vibration of her SPECIAL GIFT(S), as all is being met and fulfilled! The cycle is complete, so to speak...

Please note that this is my personal perception of how I have received your message, and what it may be that is in the message itself.

I wish for you to ponder this thought and to see how you feel with it :)

There is so much Love in You, and for you both; all was just waiting for an outlet to be manifested in the physical.... Use your healing powers consciously and your needs, too will be met...

Love and Hugs,
Trinity

Dear Max and Ursula
Thankyou so much for your comments and your kindness. I have just checked onto the website and seen them for the first time. Max I intend to reply to you when I get the time which may not be for some time but just wanted you to know I appreciate your sharing. Ursula I think it would probably be a very good idea for me to start doing the work thankyou so much for your offer of help. I have too much going on at moment and finding it very difficult to get time to myself but hopefully can start soon in the New Year.

Lynn, I so completely understand how you feel and my heart goes out to you. It's incredibly hard to be in the sadness, guilt, frustration, hopelessness and all the emotions that we can feel in our circumstances. The dreams we have when we discover we will be a parent become so ingrained into our thinking, become our sense of self and identity. My child will be this, my child will do that, I'll teach them this, we'll go here, we'll do that, this is the kind of parent I will be, etc. These dreams can be shattered when we discover we have a special needs child. We look around and see everyone having a "normal" life and ask "why me?".

This discussion with Katie was only the beginning of what was a very challenging yet powerful week for me. I did not experience Katie as over simplifying these issues. It was the second day of the workshop and I felt like a deer in the headlights once I stood up to speak. I was very nervous about opening myself up and this reflected on my ability to really respond and participate in this discussion with Katie. The real impact I felt was during the week of the workshop as I continued to dig deeper into this topic.

I found it incredibly difficult to look at my feelings around this and be honest with myself. I had so much emotional investment in imagining my son growing up and living a normal life. It's hard to let that go. It's hard to let go of some of my own life dreams knowing that he'll always need someone to take care of him. So much of my pain is reliving these lost dreams over and over again and the feelings associated with all the beliefs of having a special needs son.

But once I allowed myself to open up to the feelings and emotions and trust the process of inquiry I began to see and understand the relationship between my beliefs and the suffering I experience. I'm realizing that my dreams, my beliefs are just that, beliefs. My son has special needs, there is a reality to that. In some circumstances we just can't change things, but we do have the power to question our stressful thoughts without requiring reality to be different to how it is. My reality may be unavoidable, but I am now beginning to recognize that the suffering (and the incessant churning in my head) is optional.

This doesn't mean I don't have the feelings. I still have a lot of pain and sadness and I'm just scratching the surface on my own work around this. I did not come away from the workshop with all my issues completely understood or solved. But what this workshop did for me was to help me to notice my thinking, to understand and examine it, to begin to unravel it.

Katie mentioned at the start of the workshop, for many it would be just the beginning. This is true for me. It's a beginning and I feel like for the first time I can possibly find my way through it and perhaps reach a point of peace with it.

I would also say that reading about The Work is nothing compared to experiencing The Work. I would encourage you to try the process, trust in it and dig deep. If you are interested I could also share more of my experience with you.

- Max

I have just returned from The School for The Work in L.A. and it was one of the most powerful experiences I have had in my life. I have trained and worked as a therapist and psychologist for many years and have applied what I have learnt to difficulties in my own life. Katie's work is challenging because it challenges our ego stories that we spend most of our time protecting & clinging on to. However, my experience was that Katie challenges people so fearlessly because she genuinely wants to help them end their pain & suffering & that it comes from a genuine act of love. In my own life I can see that it isn't always easy to immediately love what is, but to accept that whatever is happening is the reality & that I only add to my pain when I do battle with it, is very liberating. Our true nature is love and peace & in my experience, Katie oozes that from every pore of her being. Thank you so much for the wonderful experience.

Dear Lynn,
Possibly this does not help you because this is not your personal work, even though, on the surface, your situation appears to be the same. It isn't.
Every person's work is unique.
Any and all of us would facilitate you, if you are willing to fill out a worksheet in order to find your own personal answers. The hotline is always available, too.
Please feel free to contact me, the hotline or the certified facilitators, if you would like to proceed.
With love,
Ursula

I have a 24 yo daughter with autism. I loved this little clip. The other day my wife and I were talking about ways we are not cool with each other, judgments etc. She said, "You know, maybe we're having the time of our life, and we don't realize it!". I thought I would fall off the chair realizing the ways I think I am so sure about what I know, what I want, and what I need. I have done a lot of work around my thoughts about my daughter, her life. Waking up a little more to this gem about life that came out of my wife's mouth the other day and listening to this wonderful man finding his way with his mind, I felt so connected to him. I know these places so well. In this moment, I see, things are just fine. Everything is for something. My special need is and always has been imagining anything should be different, including my thoughts, my feelings. When I let them live in me, I see I already am "having the time of my life!" What grace. How patient life is. It doesn't rush me, push or insist. It's all here for me, in my own time. Only unwrapped gifts!

I was interested in reading this blog because I thought it may help me in my own struggle to come to terms with my life as a mother of a brain damaged child. Unfortunately it hasn't and I found it annoying, it seemed to oversimplify and not really touch what i imagine to be the deep pain of the father. Or maybe that is me projecting my owm feelings on to him. My child is now 9 years old. When he was 2 yrs 9 mnths he was diagnosed with a very difficult to treat childhood cancer. He spent 10mths in hospital fighting for his life. His suffering was indescribable fluid on his lungs,countless lifethreatening infections in his hickman line, ischema in his bowel post operatively resulting in massive brain damage as a result of negligence, more chemotherapy which was to put him into intensive care giving him liver disease, later as he was recovering his speech and understanding he was to develop uncontrollable epilepsy which resulted in him losing more skills including the ability to communicate, feed orally or walk amongst many other things. Today my son still suffers and fits almost everyday ( from 1 to 20 fits a day), he is completely dependent on us for all his needs. I spend most of my life exhausted trying to meet all his needs, I have only his father to support me and a few hours from social services. I have struggled to find a way of coping with this new life but just as i think i am getting somewhere Oscar falls ill again (he is ill maybe 5 days a week on average) and his needs have to come first which means giving continuous reassurance and love. I think it is true to say my son has special needs. I love my son very much and the joy he emanates when he is well is truely amazing and is what keeps us going. But I have no life and am often stuck in the house for days on end, my tiredness and the monotony of caring for my son often leads to feelings of great bitterness towards everyone around me who seems to ignore our circumstances. My anger and bitterness and pain has resulted in isolation, I find it impossible most of the time to be positive so as the law of attraction plays out i become more isolated. I think I too have special needs but this does not help me.