Audio: "I Can't Stand My Best Friend" (ByronKatie.com)

Audio: "I Can't Stand My Best Friend"

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It's a familiar story for many of us. Notice how suffering is always caused when we are believing our own stressful thoughts. And if you are feeling any stress, even the most minute amount of stress, I invite you to identify what you are believing and then to question those thoughts that are always the cause of that stress.

Posted by Byron Katie on December 22, 2009 4:47 PM | Permalink

Comments (15)

Phil:

This refers to the audio 'I Can't Stand My Best Friend'

I’m listening to this again (my third time) and it’s so incredible to me.

I don’t think I should talk about why too much. I think it would be like spoiling it for those who haven’t heard it.

But, I’ll tell you this, I can imagine it being turned into a movie, with maybe Meryl Streep as the woman Nancy, and,… not sure who could play Byron Katie.

It flows like an exquisitely written script for a movie or play. (But it's REAL!!!)

Phil

Posted by Phil | February 24, 2010 7:29 PM

Posted on February 24, 2010 19:29

Phil:

The session about Ruth and her best friend,...

Simply awesome. So wonderful, to hear each transforming thought and listen as the lady went from pain, fear, worry, irritation and disgust to laughter, joy and love.

I'm listening to it a second time. Yesterday I listened to it for the first time. It still has a wonderful effect on me.

Very wonderful.

Posted by Phil | February 24, 2010 12:29 PM

Posted on February 24, 2010 12:29

Christina:

I found a great treasure in this. It was the part about Roxanne asking her husband to say "I'm sorry I did that to you." I recognized it immediately as something I could use.
I have adored my husband for 25 years. (We both had previous long marriages, I'm in my 60s, he's in his 70s.) I've had a long standing pattern of getting irritated at him for stupid little things (leaving dirty dishes in the sink, bringing home parsley instead of basil). I express my irritation, he defends himself, I get madder. When it all dies down I feel ashamed (and ridiculous). I do the work after, but it always happens so fast I don't catch myself in time.
After I listened to this I asked my husband if he would play along with me: "From now on whenever I become irritated at you for something would you just say these words: I'M SORRY I DID THAT TO YOU."
Well, the first time he said it I nearly fell over laughing. And the second and third time. The next time he began to defend himself. I said "Wait! Just say the words. Please!" He said them and we both cracked up. Neither of us is exactly sure why, but those words seem so funny to us! It's been weeks now, and it works every time.
Thank you, Katie and Roxanne.
Christina

Posted by Christina | February 19, 2010 8:09 AM

Posted on February 19, 2010 08:09

Michelle:

This was wonderfull listening! I was reached in so many different ways! As soon as the thought " this person needs to hear this" or " so and so can benifit from this", I relized it was all for me! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!!

Posted by Michelle | December 29, 2009 8:04 PM

Posted on December 29, 2009 20:04

Debbie:

Thank you Katie. This is awesome. I have sent a link to my sister who is hurting because she has isolated herself from a dear friend that she loves very much.

My sister's thoughts are so similar to the lady you are helping in this facilitation. I'm hoping that my sister will find the clarity to see that her judging and wanting to control her friends life is the cause of her sadness about this relationship.

You are the BEST Katie.

Debbie

Posted by Debbie | December 28, 2009 2:34 PM

Posted on December 28, 2009 14:34

Melina Murphy:

This is hilarious.

"Would someone facilitate this woman please?"
The best ever!

And so helpful ; )

Is there a video that goes with this?

Posted by Melina Murphy | December 28, 2009 11:04 AM

Posted on December 28, 2009 11:04

dien:

its the fear of losing someone that makes us do stupid things,
and ifeel so sorry.
but i can't change it,
it's to late for us, and our friendship

thanks for this lesson.

xxx

Posted by dien | December 27, 2009 11:10 AM

Posted on December 27, 2009 11:10

Eva:

Thanks a million. I have listened and laughed and enjoyed every minute of it, shared it on Facebook too. Love you BK for sharing your gift and work.

Posted by Eva | December 25, 2009 2:34 PM

Posted on December 25, 2009 14:34

jenny:

happy christmas! thats wonderful, thank you,

Posted by jenny | December 25, 2009 12:02 AM

Posted on December 25, 2009 00:02

jenny:

its christmas day, and i am listening now..my partners ever so good ninety four year old mother has come to live right by us, and i have been struggling with the enormity of how good she is, how wise, how oh courageous, how awful i feel at sharing ..i was up early looking for an answer and here it is!

Posted by jenny | December 24, 2009 11:29 PM

Posted on December 24, 2009 23:29

Debi:

I laughed.

I cried.

I learned.

Byron Katie, you rock. And so does Ruth and Ruth's best friend. :)

Posted by Debi | December 24, 2009 11:35 AM

Posted on December 24, 2009 11:35

Elizabeth:

What perfect timing. Thank you for this gift.

Posted by Elizabeth | December 24, 2009 7:22 AM