Explanation: “If a thought is hurtful, then it is untrue.”

Dear Katie,

I would like you to speak to a recent quote of yours (I hope I get it right): “If a thought is hurtful, then it is untrue.”

Lori

Dearest Lori,

Yes, this is something I have said often, in many variations. And what is even more important, if a thought hurts you, question it, and watch it let go of you. Ask yourself whether it is true or not, ask yourself how you react when you believe it, and so on, and really listen. You can know that reality is good just as it is, because when you argue with it, you experience anxiety and frustration. Any thought that causes stress is an argument with reality. All such thoughts are variations on a theme: “Things should be different than they are.” “I want…,” “I need…,” “He should…,” “She shouldn’t…” “I don’t ever want to . . .,” “He is…,” “They are…” “It always hurts when you argue with what is kind, which is your true self, your own heart. When the mind matches the heart, there is a balance, there is no suffering, no confusion. Done. And we can always begin right now. Or not. It’s up to the “you” that mind believes you to be in the given moment, and that is all there is or isn’t.

Thank you for the question.

All ways love, as you are,

bk