If you want something to be different than it is, you might as well teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, “Meow.” Wanting something to be different than it is hopeless. – Byron Katie
Practice reporting events to yourself as if a circumstance you find yourself in were actually a news story and you were the roving reporter.
Announce exactly what your surroundings are and what’s happening “on the scene” at that very moment.
Fear is always the result of an unquestioned past imagined as a future.
If you’re afraid, find the core belief and ask yourself, “Is it true that I need to be fearful in this situation? What is actually happening right now, physically? Where is my body (hands, arms, feet, legs, head)? What do I see (trees, walls, windows, sky)?”
Impersonalizing our stories gives us an opportunity to look at circumstances more objectively and determine our responses to what life brings. Believing our untrue thoughts is a good way to scare ourselves to death.
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An uncomfortable feeling is not an enemy.
It’s a gift that says, “Get honest; inquire.”
We reach out for alcohol, or television, or credit cards, so we can focus out there and not have to look at the feeling. And that’s as it should be, because in our innocence we haven’t known how.
So now what we can do is reach out for a paper and a pencil, write the thought down, and investigate.