Podcast: How to Have an Intimate Relationship

Also available on iTunes, here.

A husband feels that his privacy is being violated when he finds his wife looking through his texts. During a live event with Byron Katie, his wife reads each of The Work’s four questions to him and waits for his answers.
“‘I’m violating your privacy’—is it true?” says the wife. He pauses to consider the question.
Speaking to the audience, Katie says, “Don’t think the answer is supposed to be no. This is a journey. We’re noticing what arises as we meditate on the situation. And the answer to questions one and two is either yes or no. You started the Worksheet with a yes. If you aren’t seeing anything different in your mind’s eye, you’re still at a yes. So you don’t have to torture yourselves by looking for a no. Be open to ‘no,’ but if you can’t decide, it’s still ‘yes.’ She’s not asking, ‘Is it true? And don’t hurt my feelings.’(To the wife) So, sweetheart, let’s continue. And whatever his answer is, take it in fully and respond with ‘Thank you.'”
“Can you absolutely know that it’s true that I violated your privacy?” says the wife.
“Yes,” he says.
“Thank you. How do you react, what happens, when you believe the thought, I violated your privacy?”
“I get defensive,” he says. “I try to prove that I’m as open and enlightened as you are by just allowing it to happen. I become very judgmental and fearful of what it portends for our relationship.”
“Thank you. So who would you be, in that same situation, without the thought ‘I violated your privacy?'”
“I would be calm, happy, and better able to see you clearly. I’d be able to communicate more openly and honestly.”
“Thank you. ‘I violated your privacy.’ Turn it around.”
“I violated your privacy.” He pauses. “I can see that by believing you are violating my privacy, it taints my opinion of you and therefore I’m not as present as I’d like to be in our lives together.”
“Thank you. Can you find another example?”
“Probably(laughing). It makes me suspicious of you, so I want to check your phone (laughing), because if that’s the level of trust you have for me, then maybe there’s something going on with you.”
“Thank you. Can you find another example in that situation?”
Katie says to the audience, “Notice how she doesn’t defend, and she’s giving him plenty of time. He’s able to empty himself to her. This is conflict resolution. It’s a beautiful thing to experience and witness. It means that for all the days of your life, you can say anything to each other, and have an incredibly intimate relationship. And if there are times when you’re not ready for it, just say ‘Not now.’ It takes a lot of courage to stand with such integrity before the one you love.”
What you’re believing is the cause of all the hurt and anger you will ever experience. —Byron Katie
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Give yourself or someone you love a fresh start to 2019 with the New Year’s Mental Cleanse. Join me for one day, two days, or all three and a half days. 29 December 2018–1 January 2019. The gift of peace. xo bk

Testimonial Video and Upcoming Events

The No-Body Intensive with Byron Katie testimonial video

A woman at a No-Body Intensive asks, “How did we get so screwed up? No one is happy with what they have.” Byron Katie answers, “Well, you became a believer…” She goes on to explain the implications of being a believer.

We can question what we came to believe, and as a result we can undo this world. What we’re left with is a world that makes perfect sense. —Byron Katie


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Podcast: The Morning Walk: An Invitation to Freedom


Byron Katie invites you to this walk, here with your eyes closed, or as you walk in the world. It’s a silent meditation. It’s about noticing. “It’s so lovely to just walk and not know,” Katie says, “and let the world tell you what it is rather than you telling each object. Just listen, be still, and let everything name itself, or not. Just notice and be free in that, as though nothing has ever been named. Someone called it “tree,” and you really think it’s a tree. But what if you just got still, noticed, and let it tell you? I invite you to that don’t-know mind in your morning walk.” The morning walk is a core element of Byron Katie’s School for The Work. The School is an immersion in freedom. For more about the School, visit http://thework.com/en/ultimate-inner-adventure.

I’m Upset with Supporters of this Administration—The Work of Byron Katie

I’m Upset with Supporters of this Administration

Also available on iTunes, here.

A man at the 6 September LIVE—At Home with Byron Katie event reads his stressful thought to Byron Katie and the audience. “I am angry and disgusted with those who support the current administration.” This thought usually occurs to him when he’s reading an article or some comments on Facebook. Katie brings him back to the moment when he is reading. “How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought, and you’re reading an Op-Ed?”


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Event: LIVE at Home with Byron Katie 8 November 2018

What if your life became more joyful? What if you could live fearlessly? What if you had a way to unravel the thoughts that cause all your suffering?

Join Byron Katie for two hours of inquiry using The Work, four simple questions that bring relief from confusion and suffering. Experience the clarity of understanding thoughts that have been troubling you for years. Leave this workshop with everything you need to do The Work on your own.

On-site seating is limited and filled as participants arrive. (You can also join this event live on The Work of Byron Katie Facebook page.)

Contact Information:


+1 805.444.5799

Life is Simple…

Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do. Xoxo bk

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Event: Conversations with Byron Katie—11 October 2018

Join Byron Katie for this live webcast. Viewers will have the opportunity to watch others speak directly with Katie online. It is Katie’s heart’s desire for everyone to experience The Work and create a more peaceful world, inside and outside.

Click here to submit your questions.

Webcast starts at 10 a.m. Pacific Time and will last approximetly one hour.

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Emergence 2018 Event: 19 October 2018 Salt Lake City, Utah

Emergence 2018 – with Byron Katie

Question your limiting beliefs and discover your innate wisdom. Join Byron Katie for her keynote address on opening night of the Emergence 2018 conference.

Katie’s method of self-inquiry, known as The Work, has helped millions of people across the world to find a way out of depression, stress, anger, and confusion. As Katie guides you through her process, you may find that your stressful beliefs—about life, other people, or yourself—radically shift and your life is changed forever.

Unlimited access to audio and video recordings of all keynote speakers and workshop sessions will be available to ticket holders after the event. The full conference is 19–21 October 2018.

19 October 2018 8-9:30 p.m.

For contact information about this event email info@Emergence2018.org


Event: Conversations with Byron Katie—17 September 2018—Online webcast

This event with Byron Katie will last about one hour and can be viewed with the link below.

To view the webcast online visit, livewithbyronkatie.com.

If you have questions you would like to submit, please use the link below.

Click here to submit your questions.

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We live in difficult times, leaving far too many of us suffering from anxiety and depression, fear and anger. In her new and most anticipated work since Loving What Is, beloved spiritual teacher Byron Katie provides a much-needed beacon of light, and a source of hope and joy.

In A Mind At Home With Itself, Byron Katie illuminates one of the most profound ancient Buddhist texts, The Diamond Sutra (newly translated in these pages by Stephen Mitchell) to reveal the nature of the mind and to liberate us from painful thoughts, using her revolutionary system of self-inquiry called “The Work.”